mimi's island

there are a number of things that almost instinctively take place when you're at odds in a relationship and all this is why i've sparingly shared my recent quandary.
on the D-FENSE
all your friends go on the defense as if you've called for backup and they are putting up arms. i am never inclined to accepting this type of feedback. it does not feel good hearing all the opinions they've been harboring before the outcome of your predicament.
just jaded (To be 1. tired, worn-out, weary;dulled or satiated, as from overindulgence)
some people will even go so far as to avoid relationships entirely. just because someone has wronged me in such a way, i will not let every human being that i cross paths with carry the burden of someone else's mistake. i will never be "anti-men", "anti-love", "anti-marriage", etc.
the scolding
i don't need to feel like an incompetent child by being told what to do. even when people need my ear for listening, i will never cross the line of telling you what you should be doing with your life, and how you should be feeling....unless of course you ask for it. and in my case, i never specifically ask.
gone wild
yes everyone may benefit from participating in a girls gone wild event but this is certainly not gratifying for me. subjecting myself to poor judgment and risking any impulsive behavior that i might not be able to recover from or undo is not a solution but just a cover-up and it could lead to bad decisions and even more trouble.